It’s pretty common for people to share names, but less so within the same family – unless there’s a Jr. that comes after it.
But one young woman has recently confessed that she and her stepbrother have the exact same nickname they prefer to go by – and they also share a surname.
This hasn’t previously been an issue for them, but as they are both preparing to start at the same sixth form soon, she claims her stepbrother has become concerned that it is too confusing.
As such she says he’s demanding she change her name before they go back to school to make life easier for him.
The post on Reddit’s Am I The A**hole forum reads: “My mum and my stepdad dated when they were teenagers. In this time they picked out baby names together. They agreed on a unisex name that they both liked and agreed to give their first child this name. Let’s say the name is Charlie.
“They broke up. Mum had a baby with someone else, my bio dad, and they named me Charlotte, Charlie for short. Meanwhile, mum’s ex also met someone, also had a baby, and named their son Charles, again using Charlie for short.
“Mum split with bio dad when I was seven. She reconnected with stepdad when I was 11. I’m now 16. I live with mum, stepdad, and other Charlie. Mum and stepdad married when I was 14. Mum took his last name, and he adopted me, so I have his surname, too.”
She goes on to say that her biological father is no longer in the picture but he is part of the reason why she doesn’t like using her full name and prefers to go by the shortened version.
“Other Charlie and I are starting the same sixth form in September. We’ve not been formally accepted yet but it’s the only one we both like, and we’re both on track with our grades. We’re able to give them a preferred name, like Charlie.
“Other Charlie asked what I’m putting as my preferred name because he wants Charlie, not Charles, as his preferred name. I said that I also want Charlie as my preferred name.
“He’s gone off on one, saying that I can’t be Charlie because he’s Charlie, and us having the same surname is already going to give him problems. He says that I need to go by Charlotte at sixth form, or failing that use one of the other nicknames you can get from it, like Char or Lottie. I said no. I’m Charlie, I’ve always gone by Charlie, and as he’s the one with the problem he can go by Charles.”
The stepbrother claims he had the name first so he should get to keep it.
“I said it doesn’t matter as we shouldn’t have any classes together except maybe form and he’s overthinking this,” she continued.
“He says if it’s not a big deal then I can change my name and that I’m being an a**hole for not giving this more consideration.”
“Mum and stepdad say I don’t have to do anything I don’t want to, and they’d never expect me to go by Charlotte, but it might be nice to consider one of the other shortened versions of my name or even using my middle name because Other Charlie has issues with the family arrangement and it would be nice of me to let him have this.”
More than 900 people have since commented on the Reddit post, sharing advice for the teen.
One said: “There’s no such thing as calling dibs on names with “oh i had it first”. If Charles has a problem with it then Charles can go by his name, nobody else has a problem with it.”
Another replied: “There were five Helen’s in my class of 23 at secondary school including two with the same surname phonetically Brown v Browne. You know what, everyone survived, no nicknames or anything. Charlie and Charlie will be fine (although you may need to differentiate on homework handed in).”
A third added: “If they end up with the same name, they can be Charlie (Middle Initial.) Like Charlie B and Charlie K. That’s how we handled having 5 kids in one classroom who had the same trendy name. It was fine.”