‘We named our baby girl two weeks ago – but now our family want us to change it’

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A new dad has divided opinion by saying he will not change the name of his baby daughter despite the requests of his wife’s family.

The man explained throughout his wife’s pregnancy the pair had struggled to decide on a name for the baby, and they still didn’t have one picked out when their little girl arrived two weeks ago.

Shortly after the birth, his wife’s sister came to visit them and the baby, and the new parents asked her for name suggestions as “she was usually good at this type of stuff”.

His sister-in-law said she has had a whole list of potential names for her future children picked out since she was a child, one of which was Freya – and the man says both he and his wife “really loved” it.

The parents asked her if they could use it and the dad said that although she was “a little hesitant at first” she agreed they could have it as she “wasn’t planning on having children soon and would probably come up with more names later”.

But now he says: “A couple days ago, my wife’s sister found out she was pregnant.

“We were really happy for her, but then they came over to talk and asked us to change our daughter’s name because she wanted to use it for her baby.

“We have been calling my daughter Freya for the last week and a half, and we already feel pretty attached to the name, plus she already said we could have it.

“So we asked her if she could just use a different name and she got mad and said she had the name picked out since she was 15.

“We feel kind of bad but she doesn’t even know if the baby will be a girl.”

The dad took to Reddit to ask for advice on what they should do, and the post racked up hundreds of comments as the situation left people split.

Some told the dad to stand his ground, writing: “If she didn’t want you to use the name, she shouldn’t have suggested it”, while another said: “Changing a name after the baby is born is an ordeal. If she feels that strongly about it, it’s not that big of a deal to have two kids in the family with the same name.”

Others told him he was at fault after the dad admitted his sister-in-law was hesitant to share her list of names, as one bluntly said: “You stole the name.”

And some thought there was blame on both sides, as someone else added: “You knew she really wanted that name. She was a fool for telling you the names she loves. If the baby is already born, it’s unreasonable to ask you to change her name now.”